Everybody wants to love and everybody wants to be loved but somehow love is one of the hardest things to obtain, understand, but most of all figure out. If everyone wants love and we all mutually agree on that then why can't we have long loving relationships and it not be something were constantly trying to figure out? At least this has been a battle for me.
When I was a child I thought like a child and there was no secret to love because I was so innocent and untainted. I had so much love to give I could burst!!! So I said to myself maybe I should start to think more like a child as it says in the bible, that this way of thinking pleased God. So then it hit me, why don't we do this; make a list of all the things you want in a partner. Easy, right?!? So then I thought some more and I challenged myself to rip it up and make another list of all the things I have to offer a person, all of the things I would be willing to sacrifice and all the baggage I will selflessly suppress to make my partner happy. I know that seems backward but if it wasn't uncomfortable it wouldn't be right. So as I was in my childlike mind I remembered we were taught to do unto others as we would want them to do unto us! Somewhere along the way we tweaked that rule and made it our own. We now say I'm going to treat him or her the way they treat me, and there lies the problem! Nooo my friends you have to TEACH people how to treat you and the best teachers get results when they are leading by example! Stop being worried about giving too much too soon or being taken advantage of because the reality of the situation is this...love is Iove and as long as you are putting out the most loving part of you, sooner then later that beautiful karma will be brought back to you! If you're loving selflessly and being persistent, that other person will catch on and follow your lead or they will not and in that case they were not the one meant for you to love on.
Don't get discouraged but be encouraged for as long as your allowing your heart to be open love will eventually walk in. Don't allow a failed love to taint your heart and then carry that to the next person. That is where your baggage starts and we want to put an end to old thinking. Notions like, 'it's ok not to trust because you have been hurt' or 'it's normal to be jealous after what you have been through', I can go on and on, but this is not OK and it's not NORMAL... It's baggage! So leave it at the door! Remember the old grade school saying, "treat others the way you want to be treated." Go into your next relationship like a child. Obviously not to ignore your morals and values as an adult, which IS normal to have. But sacrificing a piece of the love you have to give and claiming the love you will have and deserve to get back! So I challenge you to stop looking for your perfect partner, start BEING the perfect partner!
By:Candice Madison
Edited by: Christie McGinnis
